]]> http://myenergyprofile.com/blog/energy-profiling-question-of-the-week-please-help-me-w-my-type-3-three-year-old/feed http://myenergyprofile.com/blog/making-up-for-my-childhood http://myenergyprofile.com/blog/making-up-for-my-childhood#comments Fri, 07 Aug 2009 14:59:18 +0000 admin http://myenergyprofile.com/?p=374 I am a Type 3.  In my world that means my true nature is to be active, reactive, swift, push forward towards results, dynamic, and go for it big.

This is something my mother never new about me.

If she had known this she might have put me on a swim team when I was 6 years old so I could naturally express my very physically active, competitive nature.

Due to the dysfunction (which everyone in my age group comes from) of my home, I defaulted a lot to my secondary Energy Type, Type 4.  Stillness became my dominant expression in my family environment.  Quite the opposite of who I truly am!

I see signs and clues all through my childhood and teen years that I squeezed in my true expression often enough to not totally abandon it, because I believe you never can, but very rarely was it expressed around my family.  I only started to shame the heck out of it, since I took on the belief as I created it being mirrored back to me that who I truly am is inappropriate.  I have spent years claiming my power back from that core reference of shame.

I am on my way now!  Life is good, I am living true to my nature bigger than I ever have.  One way I do that is to be very active and even competitive.

Even before I had come up with the whole Type 3 thing and the 4 Energy Types, I was deeply moved to start running marathons at age 44.  This was in 2001.   It was the biggest physcial challenge I had ever taken on in my life.  I truly believed at the time that it was impossible for me to run 26.2 miles.  It was over the top crazy to think I could accomplish that feat.  But, somewhere deep inside me a voice said you must try and you can.  After 8 months of grueling training, experiencing life changing success along the way (like the first time I ran 14 miles), and tapping out a lot fears and I can’ts, I finished my first marathon in June 2001.

It was an epiphany for me.  I literally wept the entire last mile of the race and broke down in to sobs as I crossed the finish line.  Little did I know at the time was that I was beginning to tap in to the truth of who I am and how I am designed to live life.

True to my Type 3 nature to get a bit obsessed and then burn out, I went on to run 15 more marathons in the next 4 1/2 years.  When I burned out, I was just done and have felt no motivation to do another one.

Eat your heart out Michael Phelps!

I still honor my very physically active nature by competing in Sprint distance triathlons.  To date I have competed in 16 triathlons.  I am watching myself as I know my tendency is to over do it and burn out and stop.  This awareness helps me keep it in check.  For example last year my goal was to do 8 triathlons between April to November, one a month.  I succeeded at my goal, and had a blast doing it.  This year I am doing 4 between May and Sept.  I have one more to go!

Energy Profiling has been a critical key in supporting me in living my truth.

Many people who discover their true nature are realizing they have not lived in honor of it most of their life.  I hear the question a lot, “Carol, now that I know I am a Type ….., how do I live true to my nature when I haven’t most of my life?”

The answer is easy, it will just happen.  Don’t make it the job of your intellect to try and figure out how to just BE you.  Your awareness is the key to it unfolding and expressing naturally as YOU.  All you have to do in your thinking mind is notice how much you judge the heck out of it, and every time you do, feel how crappy that makes you feel, own it as your creation and now tell the truth about who you are and the gifts you bring to the human experience.

Your true nature, your natural expression is embedded deeply within you.  It always has been there.  Knowing your a Type 1, 2, 3, or 4 does not make you that, it was there before you had this reference.  All Energy Profiling does is bring an incredible amount of clarity to your natural gifts, tendencies, behavior, personality, and physical features.  Clarity to the innate nature of you.

It’s easy, it’s natural, and there is nothing to “figure” out in BEING you.  Trust the process.

God Bless You,

Carol Tuttle

Carol,

I have studied masculine and feminine energies and sexual polarity for a very long time.  I just watched your 4^th video on the My energy profile assessment.  You said that masculine and feminine energies are no longer relevant.  Your husband, John, is a type 2 which means yin and you are very yang.  If masculine and feminine energies no longer matter, where is the sexual polarity in that?  Isn’t that just as important in a marriage?  It works for you and John because you can still play the energy of opposites.  You just play the masculine instead of the feminine?

I would love to hear your input on this topic, because I remember reading about sexual polarity in your older ebooks on marriage and relationships.  I felt as though you were throwing all of that out when I watched video 4.  I’m just beginning to become familiar with the energy types.  Can you please clarify this for me?

Thanks

Ginny Walker

Dear Ginny

Great question,  You are not clear on what I am teaching though.  Energy Profiling does not make

the masculine and feminine irrelevant, I am sure I did not say that.  What I teach is Energy

Profiling makes the cultural stereotype of the feminine being yin and the masculine being yang

obsolete.

I lead with my feminine with the influence of my yang Energy Type, my husband leads with his

masculine with the influence of his yin Energy Type.  I play the feminine in our marriage and Jon

plays the masculine.  I am a yang feminine, he is a yin masculine.  So this leaves the

feminine/masculine polarity in tact.  You could have a Type 1 yin feminine in partnership with a

Type 2 yin masculine.  You could have two Type 4 people together, or two Type 3 people, I have

seen every combination.

The feminine and masculine is being redefined with the shift from the Pisces era to the Aquarius

era.  This means we are moving from a dominant/subordinate pattern to one of partnership with

no dominant/subordinate in the couple arrangement. The stereotypical pattern in the pisces era

has been the dominant male with the subordinate female.  As is the case in my marriage,

understanding my yang feminine nature and my husband’s yin masculine nature has allowed us to

create a partnership where both of us lead equally just with different movements and natural

expressions.

I play the feminine because I am a woman, Jon plays the masculine because he is a man.  It

just looks different than the stereotypical female/male roles of the past due to our Energy

Types.  I am grateful for Energy Profiling, it has been a great blessing to help Jon and I

understand each other better, to give up old, unnecessary patterns of the dominant/subordinate

to create a beautiful partnership where we both are equal and honored.

Ginny, if you have only gone through the online course and have not yet read my new book,
“It’s Just My Nature!” I recommend you read it, I go in to a lot more detail about the yin yang
in the book.  You can get a copy at the My Energy Profile website.

Thanks,

Carol Tuttle

Anne is a Type 2, subtle, connected, detailed, soft, and very heart-centered.  The first step for Anne to be clear on who she wanted to marry was for Anne to live true to her nature.

Anne dated every Type and with each date became more and more clear on what she was naturally attracted to and what she wanted in a companion.

She decided Type 1’s were not right for her, Type 2’s were too much of the same thing, Type 4’s were too structured and Type 3’s were just right.

Anne wanted that fiery, adventurous nature that Type 3’s have.

When Anne was 22 it was clear to her she wanted to find the man of her dreams.  So she told the Universe to bring her the Type 3 man of her dreams.

I am a Type 3 and don’t like too many details so I am going to get right to the point and tell you she met him and married him within 6 months of that declaration.

For the detailed version of Anne’s Energy Profiling Love Story and to get some amazing dating tips to meet your dream boat listen to “The Living Your Truth with Carol Tuttle” radio show that was broadcast on July 13, 20009.

Energy Profiling is going to be the answer to a lot of people finding and meeting the right “type” of person and then riding off in to the sunset in to a relationship that is even more than they could ever hope for.

Don’t know your dominant Energy Type yet, well you need to know who you are first to know what you want in your lover! Find out now!

In my book “Remembering Wholeness” I say that we convince ourselves of the biggest lie that causes obvious discomfort, that we are the opposite of who we truly are and then we believe it!

So if this is fun, I have been having a ball most of my life!

True to the game, like most of us I really slammed myself with the deeper belief “If I am me, I am going to get in to trouble!”  Most of my childhood was dedicated to creating that limiting belief!

I read today on a blog site “I’ve learned a lot about life by making a mess of my own.”  And the only reason any of us could make a mess of our lives, is by trying to live like someone we are not!

Enter the world of Energy Profiling and my new book “It’s Just My Nature!.”  I know it’s harder to swallow when the author/creator brags about their own creation.  But, being a Type 3, I can’t help but tell you honestly how amazing my life has turned around since I understood myself through the Energy Profiling lens and what I teach in my new book.

Knowing that my human nature is “naturally” designed to BE pretty much everything I attempted to stop it from being gave me a huge advantage of hiding myself from me.  So, for the bulk of my life I have been winning the game of hiding!

For every person the time comes where the game of hiding suddenly turns in to the game of seeking and finding ourselves.  We tend to think that is a “better” game to play, shaming the hiding part of the game as bad and wrong.  I have taken to celebrating both aspects of the game.  If my soul wanted to play hide and seek with myself, then the better job I did at hiding me ramped up the challenge of finding me!

I am a master of the human “hide and seek” game!

Typically when we start the seeking side of the game, we keep looking outside ourselves to find ourselves, when all along what we are seeking has never left us!  All the answers are inside of us (I think I write about that in Remembering Wholeness!!! - catch the title?  REMEMBERING…..)

My biggest ah-ha in the game lately is that most people are just seeking to know more about their divine nature.  I now realize that this is a good game, but more than ever am realizing that no one is teaching how to find your true human nature!  So, nobody is looking….until now!

It’s great to understand our divine nature, it certainly helped me clear my inner critic and own how omnipotent and powerful my soul is, which is who I am,  and how I am the creator of my life.

What I didn’t realize is that I could die having missed the most important point of being in this playground  - my true human nature!  What I call my Type 3 nature.  My natural gifts in my human expression to be clear, practical, decisive, swift, bold, and at times to come across pushy, intense, and direct!

I love knowing my true human nature.  It has taken all the guess work out of being me.  In the game of “hide and seek” I am no longer hiding, I am no longer seeking, I have found me.  Now I am practicing every day of my life what it feels like to be me.  I think it is the most fun I have had yet!  But, my spirit reminds me from her perspective the entire game has been a blast!

Carol

PS - I have to thank Suzette for posting this on my Facebook wall, it is what inspired me writing this post:

“I’m experiencing the same thing today. I had a beautiful moment while getting ready for the day. The Type 1 lady on your Energy Profiling website, www.myenergyprofile.com  says in her testimonial how she felt like she went to play hide-and-seek as a child and no one came to find her. I realized today that is how I felt, but I found me today in the mirror. I have been working on dressing my truth and it payed off in a big way today. All of the sudden, I looked in the mirror and saw the little girl me all grown up– and beautiful! It was a profound and clarifying moment! I haven’ ever looked in the mirror and seen that girl until today! It brought tears to my eyes and filled my soul with gratitude!”

PPS - Just a sidenote Suzette, your soul is ALWAYS filled with gratitude!  What you experienced is your soul and human nature becoming one in that moment of “feeling” the truth of your “wholeness.”  I am having an ah-ha moment as I write this, to truly REMEMBER our WHOLENESS is to know and live fully both our divine and our human nature in this beautiful playground we call earth!  I am working on a revision of “Remembering Wholeness” to be released in 2010 as a 10 year anniversary edition, getting a lot of ah-ha’s to what I need to revise in this beautiful book.

Thanks Kim for your question about “how to honor your Type 1 son” live his truth.  There are some great golden nuggets of insight and inspiration in Kim’s question and in my answer.  Take the time to watch and keep learning.

P.s.  We tested out a little USB Camera on this one so please pardon the audio.

Do you have a question for Carol?  Submit your questions by clicking the Ask Carol button in the side bar of this blog.  Carol will pick one question to answer each week.

Type 1 is the highest movement.  It is random, animated, engaging so dominant Type 1s would be great people Docs like Family Practice, Pediatrics, ad OB-GYN.

Type 2 is a lower movement.  It is calming, comforting, and… detailed oriented so dominant Type 2s would be great Docs for anesthesiology, oncology, and anything that takes a lot of research and a calming, comforting presence for their patients.

Type 3 is a swift medium high movement and Type 3 people make big decisions quickly with a lot of confidence, so dominant Type 3s would make great Orthopedic surgeons where there is a lot of intense surgery sawing bones and reconstructing the body.  Also Emergency room Docs, that is an intense space!

Type 4 is the stillest movement with an exact, precise nature.  Dominant Type 4s, like Tony make great Docs that require exactness and a laser focus!  Like Opthamology (Tony’s choice), neurosurgery, anything that requires an art of perfecting and repetition.  Like cataract surgery on a lot of patients over and over. But Tony will be great with that he has had the same lunch for 24 years!

What I love about Energy Profiling is it does not classify people in to tight career classifications like most profiling systems.  We all have so many options no matter our dominant expression, it’s just finding what supports us in staying true to our natural gifts and talents.

Think about it!  I would not want my Anesthesiologist  to be a Type 3!  Just not detailed enough!  And they may not be too sensitive to how they are putting in the needles!  Energy Profiling gives us a window in to the natural gifts and talents of others so we can be a benefactor of these qualities as everyone plays their part perfectly.

What do you think?  Have some fun adding to this list!

Boarding the plane I greeted our fight attendant who had all the physical features of a dominant Type 3.  The more textured skin, more hyperpigmentation in her skin, coarser hair, chiseled jawline, exotic eyes….etc.

I knew for sure she was a Type 3 when her voice came booming… over the loudspeaker!  You see Type 3’s tend to talk louder than other Types and not know it.

When I was dating Jon, he used to hold the phone away from his ear when we were talking since I spoke so loud.

My Ah-Ha moment came when I realized that knowing this about our flight attendant suspended all judgment that her behavior was unacceptable.   Without Energy Profiling I could of easily judged her behavior to be unacceptable and extreme.

Instead, I chuckled and realized that I had absolutely no judgment, but real love and appreciation for her living her truth!

I was on the phone wth my daughter Annie, Type 2, soon after this and jokingly said, “I am sorry for all the times I talked so loud and didn’t know it!”  She just laughed knowing that my true nature was to do just that.

Energy Profiling is an amazing system that expands our awareness of who we are and who other’s are with one of the main benefits being the freedom of judging others.

Check it out and give yourself a lot of Ah-Ha’s that will bless your life and the life of others!